It is reasonable to be interested in the past romantic relationships of a person you are considering for yourself. A person’s prior relationships can make a difference in future ones, and although you may not want to make a hard cut decision based on their past history, understanding their past history will help you make your own choices. One thing you may want to do is to find out if a person is divorced. The following are some strategies for ascertaining this information.
The most logical strategy is to simply ask the person. Most people are honest about their past and will not only share with you whether or not they are divorced, but will also give an explanation as to what happened with their failed marriage.
This can help you make a decision even better than just knowing whether or not they are divorced. It can be a difficult subject to bring up, and the best way to do so may be in a roundabout way. For instance, you could just ask him or her in general about their past relationships.
Not everyone will be forthcoming or truthful of course, and if you find out that someone has lied to you about being divorced, then that will definitely provide food for thought as to whether you actually want to be with this person.
Ask a mutual acquaintance/friend.
If you are uncomfortable asking the person on your own and you know someone who knows them better than you, then he or she might be a great source for this kind of information.
You will want to be discreet about it, and try not to make anyone uncomfortable. It may seem like gossiping but it is a reasonable thing to want to know and it can be uncomfortable to ask the person directly.
You may want to ask in an off-handed sort of way, and again not specifically ask about a divorce but instead ask about prior relationships. You can also ask them not to mention that you asked in order to avoid anyone from becoming uncomfortable.
If they are online, check out their profile
Many people have profiles on dating websites such as jdate, and many times these profiles will tell the status of the person (i.e. single divorced separated, widowed).
If the person has a profile that you can easily find, that might be a good place to look. Also someone might mention it in some other online profile such as on a facebook or myspace page.